Tomorrow is BLP Wave 8's 2nd weekend...
I'm looking forward to it.
Current State:
Stillness in the water - I see the depth
A step into power - I sense the world is changing
Transcend the world - I think i've understood some egos along the way
Listen to the heart - I feel the sound of fear is barely audible
Integration and Integrated - I say what I mean, and mean what I say
Grace in delivery - I flow and fold conversations
Race is not completed yet - I go... eh... 3 more months left. Better run faster, harder and more effectively.
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
Thursday, March 26, 2009
An Emotional Rollercoaster
One of my MCW clients is embarking on her writing project. After checking out her blog, I was inspired to blog an entry as well. Check out her blog: http://wherethiseaglenests.blogspot.com/
Have been musing a lot about my life lately. I've been through quite a fair bit of emotional roller coaster. I experienced:
Have been musing a lot about my life lately. I've been through quite a fair bit of emotional roller coaster. I experienced:
- The Sweet Victory of having managed a successful event with a bunch of people I care a lot
- The Hermit withdrawing from the world and human so that she can have her solitude (in short, it means being a potato couch)
- The Stillness in my heart when I looked at the scenery as I'm blogging this
- The Pride of a lady whom refused to acknowledge her feelings
- The Courage of a cub to confront her weaknesses
- The Brilliance of inspiration in self-coaching
- The Sinking feeling of reality setting in that nothing BIG is accomplished, yet
- The Tiredness from all the emotional turmoil
- The Awe in having breakthroughs in my life and seeing how much I've changed
- The Introvert who says, "Let's keep this entry, short and simple"
Sunday, March 8, 2009
6-steps to get out of feeling overwhelmed/ lost
Dear Wisdom,
I'm feeling lost, overwhelmed, very stuck in my life right now. I've lost clarity again and i really want to move on. What should I do now?
All my energies are focused on feeling self-doubt, overwhelmed, stagnant, stuck, lost, and confronted. What should I do next??? There are so many things I need to handle right now, but I don't know where and how to begin. =(
Feel really lousy now. Sigh.
Please talk to me and tell me what to do next.
Please help me,
-=Lost Girl=-
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Dear Lost Girl,
Would like to 1st acknowledge the emotional turmoil you're going thru currently. Things must be difficult for you when the road ahead is unclear. Sometimes, when we are stuck, all we need is a helping hand to lead us thru the right path, or shine the light to see where you are. However, most people would feel too stuck to call for help. Remember - for every problem, there must be a solution ; )
Here're a few steps you can start to take on and try if it works for you.
Step 1- you got to understand where are you in your life. I'm referring to the positioning you are with regards to your goals and targets. If you have a goal of $50k target, for example, are you facing backwards, face down, left, right or what? I'm referring to energetic & mental-wise. If you can locate your position with regards to your goal, we can do something about your progress
Step 2 - what has been done so far? Usually when someone is feeling overwhelmed, it's b'cos he/she over-lapsed many things together and trying to figure out where and how to begin. If that's the case for you, i suggest you start by breaking down the different areas of your life into columns. In each column, list down the target/ goal you have. List down the things you should be doing such that it will lead you to your goal directly. Next, list down all the things you've done so far. I meant direct actions, instead of indirect actions.
For example, Column 1 - Health. Target - Lose 5 kg in 7 weeks. Direct Actions - Jog 3 times a week. Eat 1/2 bowl of rice each meal. No soft drinks! What I have done - Jog once a week. Managed to reduce soft drinks intake to once per day from 3 times a day.
Step 3rd - Have a priority system. It could be that your priority system is based on time-critical, or whether the tasks bring in the most money. Your priority system would depend on 1) how practical is it in forwarding your life, 2) whether it fits your values, and 3) what you need most at this point in your life. Create a priority system for the different areas in your life to see which is the most important. Make sure you know what your priority system is based on.
Step 4 - Block out your schedule. Once you have a priority system in place, block out the schedule to tackle the most critical ones 1st. Or for some people, what motivates them is creating small wins for themselves. So they would actually prefer to tackle the least important ones and work their way up the list. If that method works for you, try that instead.
Step 5 - Minimize your gap between your goals and current skill sets. Once you are done working your way thru your list, start looking at the missing gap between your skill sets and your goals. What skill sets or knowledge do you need to gain in order for you to progress faster? What would you need to have or be in order to be in FLOW?
Step 6 - Acquire the skills. GO FOR IT and MAKE THINGS HAPPEN! =)
Let me know if it works! ; )
I'm feeling lost, overwhelmed, very stuck in my life right now. I've lost clarity again and i really want to move on. What should I do now?
All my energies are focused on feeling self-doubt, overwhelmed, stagnant, stuck, lost, and confronted. What should I do next??? There are so many things I need to handle right now, but I don't know where and how to begin. =(
Feel really lousy now. Sigh.
Please talk to me and tell me what to do next.
Please help me,
-=Lost Girl=-
--
Dear Lost Girl,
Would like to 1st acknowledge the emotional turmoil you're going thru currently. Things must be difficult for you when the road ahead is unclear. Sometimes, when we are stuck, all we need is a helping hand to lead us thru the right path, or shine the light to see where you are. However, most people would feel too stuck to call for help. Remember - for every problem, there must be a solution ; )
Here're a few steps you can start to take on and try if it works for you.
Step 1- you got to understand where are you in your life. I'm referring to the positioning you are with regards to your goals and targets. If you have a goal of $50k target, for example, are you facing backwards, face down, left, right or what? I'm referring to energetic & mental-wise. If you can locate your position with regards to your goal, we can do something about your progress
Step 2 - what has been done so far? Usually when someone is feeling overwhelmed, it's b'cos he/she over-lapsed many things together and trying to figure out where and how to begin. If that's the case for you, i suggest you start by breaking down the different areas of your life into columns. In each column, list down the target/ goal you have. List down the things you should be doing such that it will lead you to your goal directly. Next, list down all the things you've done so far. I meant direct actions, instead of indirect actions.
For example, Column 1 - Health. Target - Lose 5 kg in 7 weeks. Direct Actions - Jog 3 times a week. Eat 1/2 bowl of rice each meal. No soft drinks! What I have done - Jog once a week. Managed to reduce soft drinks intake to once per day from 3 times a day.
Step 3rd - Have a priority system. It could be that your priority system is based on time-critical, or whether the tasks bring in the most money. Your priority system would depend on 1) how practical is it in forwarding your life, 2) whether it fits your values, and 3) what you need most at this point in your life. Create a priority system for the different areas in your life to see which is the most important. Make sure you know what your priority system is based on.
Step 4 - Block out your schedule. Once you have a priority system in place, block out the schedule to tackle the most critical ones 1st. Or for some people, what motivates them is creating small wins for themselves. So they would actually prefer to tackle the least important ones and work their way up the list. If that method works for you, try that instead.
Step 5 - Minimize your gap between your goals and current skill sets. Once you are done working your way thru your list, start looking at the missing gap between your skill sets and your goals. What skill sets or knowledge do you need to gain in order for you to progress faster? What would you need to have or be in order to be in FLOW?
Step 6 - Acquire the skills. GO FOR IT and MAKE THINGS HAPPEN! =)
Let me know if it works! ; )
Wednesday, January 14, 2009
Theme for 2009
This is an update since I came back from my Cambodia Trip on 1st Jan 09. Here were some of the cool things I did during the trip:
After I'm back, I did...
Self-Love, Personal Results, Family
Happy New Year to All!
- Rode on a white horse for the 1st time in my life!!!
- Went horse riding again, this time I rode for an hour around the country side & was able to gallop and maneuver the horse quite confidently!
- Went on a Quad Adventure for the 1st time (Quad is a 4-wheel BIG motor bike)
- Had 3 massages (including 1 unforgettable one *shudders*)
- Celebrated count down and the whole lights in the street went OUT
- Nearly did not make it for the airport trip back to Singapore in time
- Tried ermmm.... fried cricket for the 1st time
- Went temple-shopping/ tomb-raiding. I finally experienced a thing called, "Overdose of temple-visiting"
- Went Angkor Wat 3 times (it's supposed to be one of 7 wonders of the world)
- Watched National Treasure & South Park in Hotel >_<
- Went to Cambodia mine (the energy of the place affected me that I cried)
- Celebrated my b'day out of Singapore for the 1st time
- Went to play Casino legally for the 1st time in my life! And actually won! =D
After I'm back, I did...
- Learnt Tarot reading & created my tarot cards
- A guest for BLP preview
- Sign up for BLP wave 8
- Attracted an opportunity in AdvantEdge as Accounts Executive, a role which i've always wanted
- Attracted several other job opportunitues
- Watched 2 movies
- And a lot more mandane stuffs
Self-Love, Personal Results, Family
Happy New Year to All!
Wednesday, December 17, 2008
My Intent list for year 2009
What would be really cool and amazing in year 2009:
- Having at least 3 quality/ ideal romantic relationships
- Read at least 20 good books/e books
- Created another new personal website
- Take on 5 - 10 non ECI private coaching clients, each paying $50 - 250/hr
- Be featured in 3 magazines, TV News, and newspapers for good personal publicity
- Got my Associate Coach Certification by International Coach Federation
- Got 3 awards, certifications and accolades
- Deepen rewarding and loving relationship with my family, closed friends, loved ones and myself
- Be able to do "yi zhen jian xue"/ one-shot kill coaching many times
- Many, many personal results in the 10 domains: work/career, finance, romance/ social, family, freedom, fulfillment, health, effectiveness, coaching, and leading
- Led "Making Courage Work" program and half-tech programs!
- Led in ECI more than 15 times, and non- ECI more than 5 times
- Have weekly family dinners/ outings
- Deep phone chats almost every night with my closest friends
- Become more seductive, alluring, and graceful
- Managed and maintained 2 profitable websites/ blogs
- Picked up violin again. Be able to play "Chang hai yi sheng xiao" and "Hey Jude" on violin. Go for violin classes and get grade 3!
- Attract really amazing business lobangs/ opportunities and have the capacity, space and skills to take them on
- Be a good strategist, and use my sharp business acumen
- Know in depth of successful business mechanics
- Successfully managed 2 personal profitable businesses/ start-ups/ enterprises
- Take on a certification in either combat/ dancing/ music
- Be debt-free - Including tuition fee and bank loans! That would be amazing!
- Master my chinese language - can lead TCC preview/ half-tech program in Mandarin
- Get both my parents to take TCC - that would be "stunning news of the year"
- Get my brother to take POS and BLP
- Be very healthy and play many good bball games
- Bring my family to tour taiwan
- Celebrate my 25th b'day with my sisters and closed friends
- Growth in processing, coaching, energetic and leading skills
- More proficient in Bahasa Melayu and Spanish language. Pick up a new dialect - Hokkien/ Cantonese
Year 2008's Reflections
The year is almost coming to an end. I'm going away to Cambodia to celebrate my b'day with a bunch of conscious beings, in a nice holy-type place. I'll be visiting temples and buddhist statues. What a way to spend my b'day, and counting down to year 2009!
Here's a recap of what I wrote in 01 Jan 2008:
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2006's theme: Love, Wisdom & Courage
2007's theme: Performance, Effectiveness & Results
2008's theme: Integrity, Relationships & Discipline
INTEGRITY: Honoring all my words and promises. When I say "X", "X" happens. Having a clutter-free life and walking each step feeling clean. Being a source of Light and causing others to be source of Light in their world.
RELATIONSHIPS: Build deep, meaningful and fulfilling relationships with the people in my world. With my loved ones; to work on patience, space, love, acceptance and championing their growth. For my clients; to work on building lasting relationships, creating value, transforming their lives and championing their growth."
DISCIPLINE: To enforce integrity and ensuring my foundation is solid. To keep hitting "X" and scoring critical wins in my life. Chop wood, carry water and climb hill consistently to increase the speed and precision in getting my results. To embrace humility and inspiration in my beingness. To ensure I work on all areas of my life and be a well-rounder. To immerse myself in joy, magic, good health, good fortune and love in every tasks I take on.
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I'm always very cautious about what I wrote as my theme for the year, because it is damn scary to observe on hindsight how life has been governed by the 3 themes. For example, I saw how I worked my ass off in 2007 as I gun for effectiveness, performance and results. In this year, so many incidents popped up to remind myself on my integrity (or lack of) and discipline (or lack of). I shall have fun mulling over my 2009's theme over at Cambodia.
Here's a summarized list of my happenings in 2008:
Here's a recap of what I wrote in 01 Jan 2008:
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Theme for year 2008
HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU!2006's theme: Love, Wisdom & Courage
2007's theme: Performance, Effectiveness & Results
2008's theme: Integrity, Relationships & Discipline
INTEGRITY: Honoring all my words and promises. When I say "X", "X" happens. Having a clutter-free life and walking each step feeling clean. Being a source of Light and causing others to be source of Light in their world.
RELATIONSHIPS: Build deep, meaningful and fulfilling relationships with the people in my world. With my loved ones; to work on patience, space, love, acceptance and championing their growth. For my clients; to work on building lasting relationships, creating value, transforming their lives and championing their growth."
DISCIPLINE: To enforce integrity and ensuring my foundation is solid. To keep hitting "X" and scoring critical wins in my life. Chop wood, carry water and climb hill consistently to increase the speed and precision in getting my results. To embrace humility and inspiration in my beingness. To ensure I work on all areas of my life and be a well-rounder. To immerse myself in joy, magic, good health, good fortune and love in every tasks I take on.
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I'm always very cautious about what I wrote as my theme for the year, because it is damn scary to observe on hindsight how life has been governed by the 3 themes. For example, I saw how I worked my ass off in 2007 as I gun for effectiveness, performance and results. In this year, so many incidents popped up to remind myself on my integrity (or lack of) and discipline (or lack of). I shall have fun mulling over my 2009's theme over at Cambodia.
Here's a summarized list of my happenings in 2008:
- Led 5 previews (3 "The Courage to Create" previews and 2 "Power Memory Coaching Program" previews)
- Finally passed my C2 rank supervisor coach exam - So now i'm officially a supervisor coach! (it means i can coach & supervise other coaches)
- Created my coach website, one that I can truly call it my own - http://bethesource.wordpress.com
- Entered into a partnership for education business - check this out after you have checked out my own website k? ; ) http://seedseducation.wordpress.com/
- Graduated from SMU, School of Information Systems Mgmt, double major in Marketing
- Got into (and ended) another romantic relationship
- Co-authored and created a book within 24 hours, which become local best seller in Kinokuniya, Borders and Harris Bookstores, and featured in Channel NewsAsia, Channel 5, 8, Suria, Channel U, teletext etc - http://pickmeup-book.com/
- Coached 6 clients and 6 buddy coaches. Worked with someone to lose 15.5kg and doubled his income with 7 weeks, another to create a 3-min animation and website from scratch within 7 weeks, another to lose 7.5kg and improve her discipline in studies, another in his communication and confidence etc. It's amazing!
- Coached myself out of my 3rd depression in my life (and the worst out of the 3). Don't think anything can get me down so easily after that depression
- Got a double promotion in my 1st week at my 1st job after i graduated from SMU. Ex-boss managed to create a new position for me before I left the company. It was a cool experience
- Graduated from my 9-month Basic Leadership Program
- Invested and upgraded my skillsets via these programs: Freedom in Money (I reviewed this program. Took it in year 2007), Guerrilla Marketing, Principles of Seduction-Reviewer (POS-R) and Professional Coach Training Program 2
- Bumped into many many many old friends while I was working at Dreamworks
- Cleaned up my integrity in different aspects of my life (physical room, work, finances etc)
- Managed to cross the 50th events that I managed between year 2007 and 2008
- Went to M'sia for seafood. It's the 1st time I took a bus there in the middle of the night!
- Did personality reading with strangers and got paid for it! Weird and cool experience!
- Went to Thailand, M'sia, and Cambodia (in a few more days)
- Got offered a $3k deal to managed a Dinner and Dance, just by passing my namecard to a stranger i met in less than 5 minutes at a networking event
- Got myself an educational trainer position to train pri and sec sch students in open source
- Got myself decent paying freelance writing assignment(s)
- Had 4 job offers after I graduated
- Had a customer service issue - made me learnt so much about the importance of follow up and cleaning up your integrity
- Turning 24 in a couple of weeks' time
- Experienced what is it like to start researching, planning, writing and editing my assignments 3 hours before my submission deadlines
- Realized that I have improved in my fighting skills - more disciplined and speed in my punches
- Joined the Course Supervisor Body
- Was a Course Supervisor for a 1st time for TCC preview and Power Memory Coaching Program (June). Had to juggle between being a program manager, course supervisor, course leader support, and assistant for Power Memory Coaching Program
- Experienced what is it like to be super super broke, and what it takes to get out of it
- Was tour guide for my m'sia and USA cousins for the 1st time
- Took on an ad-hoc painting assignment, survived quality check, and got paid for it!
Saturday, August 30, 2008
What the f*ck am I doing here?
I can't believe it's almost 3 months since I last had an entry.
A lot of things happened during these 3 months; well, it always does, anyway.
A few noteworthy things that i did lately:
After assisting at the wave 6 3rd weekend, i'm just so present to these questions:
Kind of like, I've seen and experienced so much extraordinary moments in my life, especially within the last 2 - 3 years, that whatever i am doing now feels so damn ordinary.
It reaches a point where when it comes to my career, anything would do, b'cos they're so ordinary. I guess working at an MNC would look cool, 'cos i get to wear corporate suits and look fantastic. But after a while, it'll be the same starting point again - serving nothing but a function, and trying hard to look impressive. Then what? Isn't that what everyone else has been doing so far?
I was supposed to come up with a team name and tag line for my company. My team name is Greater Heights, and tag line is - "Lead the Way".
The Way refers to the "Dao (4)", or the path. Lead the Way refers to opening up a path of consciousness and guiding them to awakening. In layman's term, it means - "Showing people how their lives had been..... could be..... and should be....."
Honestly speaking... I'm not too sure if i can ever get to the point of integration nor stop feeling lost. I feel almost like drifting along with life.
Hope this feeling will end soon, and may i wake up each day feeling integrated, and living each moment extraordinarily. If not that, then what the f*ck am I doing here?
A lot of things happened during these 3 months; well, it always does, anyway.
A few noteworthy things that i did lately:
- Graduated from SMU, finally!
- Just joined Dreamworks. I got double promotion on my 1st week of work - 1st promotion was to Executive Consultant. 2nd promotion was to Corporate Trainer.
- Brought my M'sian and USA cousins to tour around Singapore last weekend. Think if i switch to tour guide, i could probably excel too =P
- Assisted at "The Door" and "Wave 6 Basic Leadership Program 3rd weekend".
- As i worked at Dreamworks over the past 1 week, i bumped into several ppl.; Dianna, Xiao li, Johnny, and that Hisatomo auntie
After assisting at the wave 6 3rd weekend, i'm just so present to these questions:
- What the f*ck am I doing here?
- What should I do next?
- What does an extraordinary life mean to me?
- How can I fuse my higher mission/ vision to whatever i am doing now?
Kind of like, I've seen and experienced so much extraordinary moments in my life, especially within the last 2 - 3 years, that whatever i am doing now feels so damn ordinary.
It reaches a point where when it comes to my career, anything would do, b'cos they're so ordinary. I guess working at an MNC would look cool, 'cos i get to wear corporate suits and look fantastic. But after a while, it'll be the same starting point again - serving nothing but a function, and trying hard to look impressive. Then what? Isn't that what everyone else has been doing so far?
I was supposed to come up with a team name and tag line for my company. My team name is Greater Heights, and tag line is - "Lead the Way".
The Way refers to the "Dao (4)", or the path. Lead the Way refers to opening up a path of consciousness and guiding them to awakening. In layman's term, it means - "Showing people how their lives had been..... could be..... and should be....."
Honestly speaking... I'm not too sure if i can ever get to the point of integration nor stop feeling lost. I feel almost like drifting along with life.
Hope this feeling will end soon, and may i wake up each day feeling integrated, and living each moment extraordinarily. If not that, then what the f*ck am I doing here?
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